life is too short

Hi loves,

As I’ve turned 20 I’ve realised something which I knew all along anyway, but I think waking up that morning and realising I was no longer a teenager anymore really brought things home for me.

Life is too short.

Life is too short for me to be cold and bitter because people have hurt me in the past and I’m scared of getting hurt again, life is too short for me to not wear that outfit because I’m scared of what other people will think, life is too short for me to not do whatever the hell I want to do, because what if I wake up tomorrow and realise that it’s my last day on Earth and I haven’t done any of the things that I wanted to do because I was too scared the whole time, waiting for something better to happen. What did all of that amount to?

Life is too short for me to not throw absolutely everything at it and to not get right back up again when everything comes hurtling straight back at me. As long as I’m sensible with it – as long as I’m not giving love awayย becauseย I need validation orย becauseย I need someone / something else to fill me up with it – why shouldn’t I throw love into every aspect of my life at full force?

If people can’t handle it, fine. It’s their problem, not mine. I’ve realised (and really understood) lately that when people react to things, it’s a reflection on them, not you.ย When I react to a certain situation or thing – it is a reflection on who I am, above anything else, and vice versa. When I give 100% of my love to someone and they throw it right back in my face,ย that reaction is not a reflection of me. It is not who I am.ย These reactions should not make me guarded and scared and cold and yada yada, because it is not a reflection of the person that I am.ย You are not measured by how other people react to you.

Like I said, as long as I’m sensible with whatever it is that I’m giving, I’m going to be absolutely fine. If I was throwing myself head first into things because I had no sense of direction or self awareness or self love etc. and I was just aimlessly diving into things with no idea of how they were going to end, then we’d have a problem. But if I throw every ounce of myself into everything that I do at full force because I have all this love to give and I want to experience life for every single magnificent little thing that it has to offer me, then that’s great, because life is too short for me not to.

I’m 20 years old right now – in another 3 lots of these 20 years, I will be 80.ย 80.ย In 3 more lots of these I will be 80 years old, and that’s terrifying. Ridiculous even. Who’s to even say I’ll live that long. This block of 20 years has literally flown by right before my very eyes and in another 3 I’ll be 80 years old or even 6 feet under with no concept of life anymore whatsoever, who knows. Sorry if that’s a bit morbid, but it’s real. Life is too short for me to sit here watching the world go by and not experiencing it for everything it has to offer.

Throughout life, we’re always waiting.ย What are we waiting for?ย Love. Money. Promotions. Bigger house. Children. Dream holiday. New clothes. Payday. New friends. Friday. The weekend. The list goes on. We’re always waiting for something, something bigger, something better. But what if we don’t have that long? What if we don’t have that long to wait? What if you’re gone tomorrow and you’ve spent all of your time waiting for these things that you never even got the chance to see happen?ย What if?ย What was the point, what did it all add up to? Amount to? Nothing.

You don’t have time to wait.

If I get a new piece of jewellery now, I wear it straight away. If I get a new piece of clothing, I try it on and wear it the second I get home. Screw waiting for a special occasion, – every day is a special occasion, and why? Because you’re alive. If that isn’t reason enough to celebrate, I don’t know what is.

Life is too short for me to not tell everyone I love them and to not wear that outfit because it’s too nice for me to only go down the supermarket in and to not eat that chocolate cake because I already treated myself yesterday and I really need to lose some weight and to not go to the cinema again because I already did that last week and to not ask to see my friend if they want to hang out for the second day in a row because I already saw them yesterday and what if they think I’m clingy or annoying and blah blah blah blah. GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD. Less overthinking, more living. As Shia LaBeouf so wonderfully said,ย just do it.ย (I know we all remember those Vines).

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

This post is absolutely not to scare you in any way, because I’m pretty sure we’re all aware of the fact that time is a thing that exists, and it is constantly running out. However, I am here to tell you that because of this, we need toย live.ย I know I do. I’m always waiting for something and I have absolutely no idea what for – so why am I doing it? Why am I sitting here waiting around for something that I wouldn’t even recognise if it hit me in the face? I’ve spoken about this a lot before – the fact that I constantly (used to) live in the future instead of the present. I put all of my happiness into the future because obviously, everything was going to have worked out by then and life would be great, and I saw a great tweet the other day that I’d never heard of before, but it changed my outlook on things massively. It was this –

“Beware of destination addiction: The idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job, or even with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it’ll never be where you are.

The last part really spoke to me, as in,ย it was screaming to me.ย It was screaming saying get out Chloe, go and live your life!! And then I turned 20 and the realisation hit me like a ton of bricks and now I’m here, writing this, urging you guys to get out there and do the same.

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Anne Lamott

And why?ย Because life is too short not to.

All my love,

Chloe .xx

41 thoughts on “life is too short

  1. seaofwordsx says:

    Aaaah damn I love this post so much ๐Ÿ˜ I’m also always thinking about the future and never live at the moment and then get anxious. I think what scares me the most is not living life and being happy and growing old and not having done the things I love. We are always thinking about tomorrow never about today and time is running out. We think we will live forever but we don’t. If I’m thinking about that I also get like sad because I wanna achieve big things in life but don’t know how and think like I would fail if I don’t achieve certain things. I bought two concert tickets even though I still don’t have work but fuck off it makes me happy and memories forever ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ’œ

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    • hell0chloe says:

      One of my biggest fears is reaching the end of my life and thinking wow, I really wish I had done that. Just looking back on it all and wishing I had done everything so differently when I still had the time – but I can’t dwell on that now !! We have to live in the moment! xxx

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  2. theworldoffritters says:

    I love this post!!! You are absolutely right, life is way too short to worry about what other people think about you and you have to enjoy everything what life has to offer!
    I also read that last quote on Twitter a few weeks ago and I think it’s sooo true! xx

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  3. whatismaria says:

    This realisation always hits me at the most random of times and it is always scary yet inspiring simultaneously – life is definitely too short not to follow your heart, do what makes you happy, try new things as much as possible. We should aim to look back at our lives with fondness and a feeling like we’ve created a wonderful existence for ourselves. As always, this is such an insightful and thought-provoking post. Thank you for sharing and I hope your February is absolutely fantastic. xox

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    • hell0chloe says:

      Completely agree girl! The aim is to look back on your life and be able to say yeah, I had a good one. You never want to have to look back on it and regret the things you didn’t do because you didn’t believe in yourself, or because you were worried about what other people would think – you only have one life and the only person you’re living it for is yourself! Thank you for reading and for your lovely words as always! xxx

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  4. Sarah says:

    This is beautiful! I feel like Iโ€™m some โ€˜wise old soulโ€™ sitting here at 25 (UGH … jk kinda love it) but the next few years will teach you SO SO much about letting go of all the regret and constant judgement of yourself – and youโ€™ll be able to be selfish. And never feel guilty for being selfish. Whatever you do for yourself, will only build you up and that positive energy will reflect onto others, attract people with the same vibe, and improve everything around you. You donโ€™t even need to force it, just keep living with the AWARENESS of everything you wrote above. Seriously excited to see what 20 holds for ya!!

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    • hell0chloe says:

      Thank you! I loved this and thank you for taking the time to share, it definitely inspired me! They say the 20s are your selfish years and I’m going to fully embrace that, I’ve definitely realised that as I’ve gotten older and removed myself from the whole highschool / judgement thing I’ve started to care a lot less, I am my own person and if people don’t like that, it’s their problem, not mine! xx

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  5. crystalsandcurls says:

    I LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU. This post. THIS POST IS LIFE. It’s so true – so PAINFULLY true – and it’s what I’m trying to do this year. I think I made a really good start at starting to live my dream life last year, so I think this year is my time to continue! (Also, part of this living is that we are meeting up this year. Roadtrip, concert, holiday or spontaneous “we have ยฃ800 and 5 days off work let’s see what we can come up with” – it’s happening xxx

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    • hell0chloe says:

      I LOVE YOU TOO GIRL !! Honestly this makes me so happy and I’m SO glad you’ve done this – we are definitely meeting this year and doing all of that, there’s no way we’re leaving 2018 without it !! xxx

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  6. Indy Watson says:

    This is so inspiring. I constantly think to myself “if I died tomorrow would I be happy with the person I’ve become and the things I’ve done?” Usually the answer is yes, but it’s a reminder to keep living and finding little moments of joy in everyday life

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  7. purrpale says:

    As always, great post Chloe! Life definitely is too short and we gotta do whatever the heck we want now (or at least asap) because we may miss our chance! I turn 20 at the end of this year and it’s terrifying me but at the same time, I am excited because I get to do all the adulty things. This post has kinda made me realise that I shouldn’t wait until a certain age to do something, if I wanna do it now I’ll do it now! xx

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    • hell0chloe says:

      Thank you! Completely agree, if we don’t do things now then when will we? I don’t believe there is ever really a “right time” for anything and so we just have to go for it, we’ll regret the things we didn’t do more than the things we wished we had done! xx

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  8. Abi Babbles says:

    This is something I think about constantly. I always live in the future with small and big things. I’m forever telling myself ‘I’ll be happy when’, it’s actually exhausted me. I’m reading Fearne Cotton’s book ‘Happy’ at the moment and it’s been a breathe of fresh air. It talks about being in the ‘now’, and has really woken me up regarding constantly trying to seek happiness elsewhere.

    Thank you for this post, I actually really needed it today. It’s been one of those deflated ‘what’s the point’ days xxx

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    • hell0chloe says:

      Exactly !! I’ve wasted so many years on my life with the perception that “when _____ happens, I’ll be happy”, and that’s never the case. It’s so ridiculous! Definitely going to have a look at that book, I could really use something like that right now – and thank you so much, I’m glad this could be of some help to you, remember I’m always here if you need lovely! xxx

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  9. questionsfromateenager says:

    “GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD. Less overthinking, more living.” – YES CHLOE, YES!! What a wonderful train of thoughts we got to read here. So much depth to each and every single word. YOU TELL THE WORLD, GIRL!

    I think what I often realized in hindsight is just how big of a deal I make things be in the moment. And when it consumes you that much, it not only takes away the fun in your life but also time. SO PREACH IT FROM THE ROOFTOPS! Life is too short to worry about every little detail. I think I have to get to a place where I can enjoy moments without thinking, JUST BE.

    Such an inspiring message to put out there Chloe, one that NEEDS to be heard, especially by our generation – get off your phones and live a little! Loved this sooo much, honestly, you can do nothing wrong in my eyes! xx

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    • hell0chloe says:

      Thaaaanks angel! Completely agree with you and I definitely do the same, I always make things out to be a lot bigger than they actually are, then afterwards I sit there wondering what I was even worrying about! I spend too much time worrying about things that aren’t even issues to begin with and I definitely want to work on turning that around, you are so lovely and thank you for such amazing words as always!! xxx

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  10. chloewritessometimes says:

    I love this post so much! I turn 20 in 4 months and everything you said resonated with me so so much! Thanks for reminding me that it’s important to live for now! Love your blog by the way ๐Ÿ™‚ x
    chloewritessometimes.wordpress.com

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