going to a concert alone

Hello my loves,

So, something big happened last week….

*drum roll please*

….I bought myself a single concert ticket because for the first time ever, I’m going to a show alone.

TA DA.

Kidding, I know it’s not that much of a big deal, but it is to me – I can’t even remember how many concerts I’ve been to throughout my life, I probably go to about 3 or 4 per year, but I’ve never actually been to one alone.

UNTIL NOW.

Basically (artist I’m going to see by the way is Demi Lovato) I’ve always had friends to go to concerts with because luckily, we’ve always been into the same music. There have however been numerous occasions sometimes where I’ve missed out on going to a concert because I didn’t know anyone that also liked the same artist and therefore skipped going (which I’m bummed about) but this time, I know people who like Demi, they just live really far away and so the two options for me here were either go alone or don’t go at all.

Not going at all was not an option.

There are 4 artists in my life that I would 100% never miss a concert on if I had the opportunity to go, these are – Harry Styles, Lana Del Rey, Ariana Grande and Demi Lovato.

I’ve waited 6 whole years (since I was 14) for Demi to tour the UK (not sure if it’s only just sunk in that there are other places in the country apart from London) and so when she finally announced her tour and I saw there was a date coming up near me, there was no way I was going to miss it, so it was just a given that I was going to buy myself a ticket.

I think because of this, the anxiety of it all didn’t really kick in until after I’d bought it because beforehand the only thing I was concentrating on was getting myself a seat.

So update: now that I’ve bought the seat, I’m kind of pooping myself.

Can’t lie, my anxiety has gone into OVERDRIVE. I think it’s subsided a little because I’m excited more than anything (which I’m grateful for, thanks brain) and honestly, the only thing I’m worried about is the journey there and actually getting into the arena. I hate driving in cities and don’t fancy paying a ridiculous amount for parking so I’ll get someone to drop me off, but regardless of wherever I’m going, if I’m ever getting dropped off somewhere it gives me time to overthink it and so my anxiety makes me feel like I’m about to explode, (there’s literally a knot forming in my stomach as I’m writing this) and so I’m not looking forward to that, I’m also not really looking forward to initially getting into the arena and making my way to my seat which is silly, since I’ve done it so many times before and have actually been to this arena before as well, so I remember it and know where everything is pretty much – if I don’t, I can just ask, no big deal.

Once that’s over and I find my seat, I’ll be fine. Things like sitting there on my own waiting for the concert to start don’t bother me too much because I’m quite independent anyway so I’m confident with being on my own in certain situations and literally no one is going to care or even notice that I’m by myself so again, no big deal – if I do feel a little awkward I can just go on my phone, problem sorted.

When the lights go down and everything starts literally no one is going to care about me and so I can just let go and enjoy everything, so I have no anxiety about that either and then when the concert finishes I can just call my lift and find my way back to the car – job done!

The only anxiety I have is just the initial time leading up to it because I’ll probably overthink it, the journey there and then arriving and finding / making my way to my seat. After that, everything will be fine – does anyone have any tips on how to calm myself down / not overthink it too much? All advice is welcome! ♡

I’m also super excited because A). I’m finally going to see Demi after 6 years, I’ve waited for this for so long I could explode. B). Because this could open up a whole world of new things for me – if this goes well (which I’m sure it will) then I will have overcome such a big barrier with my anxiety and it will also allow me to go to more concerts by myself in future, hooray to more living for myself and not allowing other people to dictate whether I can or can’t do something! And lastly, but probably most importantly, C). I need to do this. Long story short (I won’t go into it) but if you guys have read my other posts about depression, anxiety, my best friend etc. then you’ll know that life can be super shitty sometimes and basically, Demi has been my saviour since day one. Before my best friend passed I still had bad depression and anxiety, and my best friend wanted more than anything for me to see Demi one day because she knew it would make me happy, and that’s all she ever wanted. I need to do this for myself and I feel like in a way, it was meant to happen like this – I was meant to go on my own. It’s like a journey and an experience that I need to have with myself, by myself, and so I think it’s fate that it ended up happening this way. I know my best friend will be with me the whole way because all we ever did was dream of seeing Demi together someday, she wanted to be there with me to support me and to see me so happy that I was finally getting to be in the same room with someone who pretty much saved my life. It breaks my heart that Chels can’t be here with me physically but I know she’ll still be there and so this is something between her, Demi and I. Just us, so I don’t need anyone else to be with me – I have everything I need right here, within me, and I know it’s all going to be okay.

If you’ve ever been to a concert (or anywhere really) on your own before – how did it go? Like I said, any tips or advice would be greatly welcomed because I’m still a little nervous for it!

The concert isn’t until June, but I’ll be sure to also do a post after it to let you all know how it went – I hope I can look back at this post afterwards and wonder what I was even worried about.

All my love,

Chloe .xx

66 thoughts on “going to a concert alone

  1. AM Travels says:

    That’s awesome! Good for you. I always buy two tickets to a concert then proceed to beg my friends to come when I probably would have had a better time if I went alone because they end up not really knowing or enjoying the band.

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  2. Katie says:

    I’m so happy I found this. I got two tickets to Demi’s concert in Birmingham and I was going with a friend who unfortunately can’t make it now. So I’m frantically trying to find someone to go with me and with the concert being about a week away the hope of that is fading and the thought of going alone scares me as I’ve never been to a concert before. So reading this and the comments calms me a bit but the thought of an empty seat next to me and being judged gives me so much anxiety. I really don’t want to not go as I’ve been obsessed with Demi from her Camp rock days. Let’s hope it all works out for the both of us x

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    • Chloe Luna says:

      Oh wow, such a coincidence! Honestly just try and stay as calm as possible – you’re probably going to have the best night of your life. People go to concerts on their own all the time and even though it’s scary there’s lots of directions and people there to help you, I promise no one is going to care that you’re there on your own, they’re all wrapped up doing their own thing. (Imagine how many places you’ve been to before where someone has been there by themselves – think of how many times you’ve noticed! Probably never) I really hope it works out for you – let me know how it foes lovely .xx

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  3. theworldoffritters says:

    I’m so so happy for you! 💖 Demi’s concert is going to be amazing and you’re goint to have an amazing time!
    I have never been to a concert alone before, but I think it wouldn’t be so bad because you literally go there because YOU want to see the singer/band and you don’t have to care about what others think of you just because you’re not there with someone else! ❤️ xx

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  4. chloeburford says:

    I absolutely love this, I have plans of doing more activities alone this year too so I am so proud of you. Having your headphones in always helps me beat anxiety on journeys or reading magazines! Can’t wait to see the concert photos!xx

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    • hell0chloe says:

      Thank you so much lovely 💙 I hope we both manage to achieve great things this year, and thank you for that tip – headphones are a must, I’ll definitely make a note to take those with me!! xx

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  5. purrpale says:

    I’m proud of you!! This is a super scary thing and I wish I could do it! Although, I did buy a single ticket to All Time Low (for March) and I was fully prepared to go on my own but my friend recently got a ticket herself so now I’m no longer going alone! Please let us know how it turns out when you finally go! xxxx

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  6. Georgia Beth says:

    I love this post!! I am going to my first concert alone in June to see my favourite girl band ever HAIM! I’m nervous but this has made me feel so much calmer! And if you ever need a pal to see Lana when she finally comes to the UK, I’m in hhahah! Xx

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  7. seaofwordsx says:

    I’m so proud of you going alone to a concert ❤ Harry Styles, Ariana Grande and Demi Lovato are also some of my favourite artists 😍 Demi Lovato is coming to Madrid but the same thing… I don’t wanna go alone. I went always with a friend to a concert or with my mother. Next Month I’m going to Operacion Triunfo concert (spanish singing contest with the 16 participants). I also bought tickets for Pablo Alboran, spanish singer. I bought two tickets for me and my friend or my mother because I don’t know alone I would feel anxiety or withe the crowd. In some concerts you have seats but in others not. I also don’t know why I would feel anxious if I would go alone because concerts are the best way to make friends. Everybody is there to enjoy the live music and have the same music taste. Only good vibes ❤ I love Demi Lovato so much, echame la culpa is a great Spanish song which is so famous right now. I danced it here in Spain💃 I also love Instruction. You really inspire me to do this once because I also missed out on concerts because nobody would be able to come with me. I think I would be anxious to go to a concert because of my anxiety like if I feel bad, a friend would be there with me and I would feel safer. I think everything will go well with you and your best friend would be proud of you ❤ Take a deep breath and enjoy! You deserve it 💜

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    • hell0chloe says:

      Thank you lovely girl! Do you think you’ll end up going to see Demi in Madrid? I’ve always been with friends to concerts too – so this one will be interesting! You have so many concerts lined up, I bet you’ll have a great time – I need to book some more! I love knowing there’s loads of things lined up, it gives you something to look forward to! I agree, concerts are always full of good vibes because everyone is there for the same reason – the love for the music and the artist! I do hope I meet some people, at least we’ll have something in common to talk about, I love Echame La Culpa too – Spanish bops are always sooo great, they make me feel like I’m on holiday hahaha, thank you so much lovely – I’ll be sure to let you know how it goes!! 💜💜xxxxx

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  8. Kaitlyn says:

    So happy and proud for you lovely Chloe! For doing what you want to do, rather than what anxiety wants! Around a year ago I began challenging myself to go and watch movies alone, not because I didn’t want to go with others, but simply to see if I could. After the initial, silly anxiety regarding how I thought everyone was going to judge me, I ended up having a great time, and now I have no problem doing that. I believe in you, and you are going to have an amazing time, for you! All topped off by how proud of yourself you will be for the challenge too ❤

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    • hell0chloe says:

      Thank you so much angel, going to watch movies alone is actually something I really want to push myself to try and do this year, just like with concerts – the amount of times I’ve missed out on seeing a really great movie because I had no one to go with is ridiculous! Once the lights go down everyone is concentrating on the film and no one is talking anyway, so I don’t know why I have such a big amount of anxiety over it! Thank you for you lovely words as always 💙x

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  9. The Style of Laura Jane says:

    The good thing about a concert is that everyone is so excited and in a good mood beforehand. This might sound really daunting, but if you are in the queue and you see a group of people that look nice, you always have the subject of Demi to discuss. But honestly, I think everyone is going to be so focused on the performance, selfies etc, that you can go and just enjoy.
    Seats are scary to walk into – I always think I have the wrong one, but the probability of that happening is low and even if it does, the probability that it will ruin your night or end in disaster is also incredibly low. I read a tip once about picturing every single plausible scenario – play it in your head and realise the chance of each one. All the worries are about 8% realistically likely to happen and not as badly as you ever imagine. xx

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    • hell0chloe says:

      Concerts are always a great opportunity to meet people / make new friends and like you said – there’s always the topic of the artist that we’ll have in common! Which always makes striking / holding up a conversation a little less daunting (something I sometimes struggle with). I’m the same with you in that I always think I’ve done everything wrong hahah, I always end up checking everything 100x over just to make sure I have the right info! Thanks for that little fact as well, I’ll definitely keep that in mind – it’s put me at ease for a bit at least!! xxx

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  10. Mariel Barbadillo says:

    I’m so happy for you! There are so many concerts I’ve passed up because I had no one to go with and was too anxious to even think about going by myself. But you making the choice to go alone makes me think that maybe I can do it too. Hope you have an amazing time! I’ve seen Demi a few times in concert and she’s so incredibly talented, it’s something you’ll always remember.

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  11. priya says:

    I feel so proud of you for sticking to your guns and doing it! You’re going to enjoy yourself so much, like you said, once the lights go down no-one cares and I can definitely relate with having Demi be a big impact on my life so I don’t think I’d be able to miss that either! I hope you have an amazing time girl!! xx

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  12. iwannabealady says:

    This makes me so happy to read. You are absolutely making the right decision for yourself. Once you go, you’ll see that the fear was your own creation. You’ll be hopping online to book a solo trip somewhere! I remember going to my first concert alone. None of my friends were interested and it was an artist I grew up loving, and I made a choice to just live my life and do what makes me happy with or without others. I’ve been getting better and better since, including solo travel. This is a big step for you and we’re all sending you positive energy!

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  13. Veronica M. says:

    I’m so happy you will get to see Demi!!! She’s such a beautiful, genuine artist and person. And you’re wonderfully brave to go to a concert solo-im not sure if I could do that. ❤❤

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  14. Indy Watson says:

    Its great that you’re going on your own and not letting that hold you back. I actually went to see The Kooks in July with my dad, but shortly after the show started my dad retreated to the seats and I stayed in the mosh pit. Alone. And although I was kinda scared I got the feeling that nothing too bad could happen. When you’re going to your concert honestly just don’t think about the difficult part until it has to be done, the more you worry beforehand, the higher your anxiety over the act will be. AND it must be so exciting to see Demi Lovato! For me I’ve always said I want to see Arctic Monkeys before I die, but they’d been on a four year haitus and probably broken up, but now they’re back together and touring a bunch of festivals in europe and I’m just here with my fingers crossed that Australia will be on the map.

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  15. don't give a jam says:

    you’ll definitely feel better once you’re in the seat & she starts singing! I kinda think it is a big deal lol, I don’t know if I could do it! so proud of you for buying that ticket & not letting anything stop you from seeing a singer you love!

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  16. crystalsandcurls says:

    Oh my goodness words don’t describe how proud of you I am; the prospect of going to a concert alone for some reason terrifies me (makes no sense why but it does!) so go on girl! I love that you’re finally going to see an artist who means so much to you! xxxx

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  17. Hannah says:

    I also got tickets to see Demi but from the sounds of it you’re not seeing her in London so I will not be seeing you there. I’m so excited because I too have never seen her live before despite being a fan since When The Bell Rings. I’ve been to one concert alone but it was a small concert so I felt like I stuck out like a sore thumb but this will be a huge concert so you can easily lose yourself in the crowd. xx

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  18. ameliacdowling says:

    Ahhhh I really need to go to a gig alone… I missed out on seeing my favourite band EVER for a second time in London because the guy I was meant to be going with bailed and I was too scared to go alone! My music taste is a bit niche so would be fab if I was brave enough to go alone!

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    • hell0chloe says:

      Ahh me too! Apart from a few really popular artists like the ones I mentioned, my music taste is a little indie / niche and so it’s even more difficult to find people to go with – I’m hoping this experience will point me in the right direction! X

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  19. Abi Babbles says:

    This is so inspiring Chloe. The fact that you’ve plucked up the courage to go alone is amazing. I’d love to do more things like that, because I don’t have many friends in London and there’s always so much I want to do with no-one to go with, but why don’t I just hit it alone?! I’m sure you’ll be absolutely fine and like you’ve said, most of the time no-one else really notices what you’re doing anyway so! Have the best time xx

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    • hell0chloe says:

      Thank you lovely! I think I am definitely past the stage of letting others dictate what I can and can’t do like I said – I don’t want to miss out on things and regret them years later because I was scared of being alone! xx

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  20. kingajpg says:

    I’M GOING TO SEE DEMI THIS YEAR TOO!! Can’t wait! Luckily I found a friend to go with but I still understand your experience! I often turn down events/concerts because I have no one to go with and after reading this post I realised how silly that is! Going to try and get out of my comfort zone and go to a concert alone sometime soon! Thanks for this

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  21. hopelesswonderer says:

    I friggin love this. I am completely the same and refuse to go to a gig on my own, it doesn’t seem as good whe you haven’t got someone to share it with, but you will be surprised at the friends you make while your there becauzse you have to make yourself talk to someone, I hope you have a sick time and lose your voice from singing too much!!!

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  22. mburablog says:

    i would be super excited too!!!!!! but you know what, its your moment to be happy. Even your best friend wanted this for you so go there and have a blust. All people who will be there love Demi and since you said you know people who love Demi live far away guess what? you can make new friends there. You can start recording a video for yourself till you get there, which will keep you busy or am sure you will not be the only one who would have gone by yourself. You will find people who came by themselves too. So start a little chat, suggest a selfie and boom! you will have a new friend. I hope you will have fun!!!!!!

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