I’m back again with your weekly dose of motivation, so, here are 7 easy and simple ways to become comfortable with yourself (all tried and checked by me, also these points are going to be simple so I’m not going to ramble like I usually do, hallelujah!)
look at people who make you feel confident
STOP LOOKING AT INSTAGRAM MODELS WHO DO NOTHING FOR YOUR SELF ESTEEM. Social media can be both a blessing and a curse – use it wisely! Follow people who make you feel confident, look at photographs of people with the same body type as you, see how confident they are and the kind of outfits they’re wearing – take inspiration from them! If you find yourself looking at people who make you feel inadequate, what is that doing for you? Nothing!! Unfollow and move on!
stop caring about what others think
I’ll be the first person to say that this is a lot easier said than done and sometimes takes years of practice, but a little improvement each day doesn’t hurt anyone, right? Stop caring what other people think! If these people are strangers; they don’t know you, you’ll probably never see them again in your life and they’re probably not even paying attention to you in the first place. I constantly worry about what other people think and then I have to have a reality check with myself and think Chlo, stop flattering yourself. Nobody cares that much to even spend a millisecond of their time thinking about you or what you’re doing. Get over it.
listen to badass music
Honestly, this one works. Be fierce. If you’re about to go somewhere or do something and your anxiety is going through the roof, put your headphones in and play some badass music, honestly, it makes you feel like you’re in one of those movies walking away from a burning building / explosion because you’ve shown the whole world who’s boss and that no one can mess with you. If you’re unable to wear headphones during the process of whatever it is you’re doing, listen to the music just before you’re about to do it – for example, as you’re in your room getting ready for it or before you get out of the car.
wear clothes that make you feel comfortable & at your best
Hey people, here’s a thing – you have the right to wear whatever the fuck you want. This ties in with the point of ‘stop caring about what other people think’ but honestly, wear what YOU want to wear. Whatever makes you feel most confident and comfortable – throw it on!! If you want to try out a new outfit but are too shy to do it in a place you might see people you know, go somewhere else! Go to the next city and wear it, or wear it when you go on holiday. If you like it and feel good in it – great, if not, no worries – you tried it and you don’t have to worry about it again!
pursue your passions
Stop depriving yourself of the things you were born to do. Who cares if other people will think it’s uncool, it makes you happy and that’s all that matters. Stop depriving yourself and suffocating your creativity – pursue it and let it flourish, whatever it may be. It will help you to become more in touch with yourself and make you a happier person. Trust me.
stop beating yourself up for being a certain way / liking certain things
Again, this ties in with my last point but I used to constantly beat myself up all the time for being a certain way, I’d compare myself to others and wonder why I couldn’t be like this person or that person and why couldn’t I be cool like that girl and why did I have to like the things I liked when it seemed like no one else did and blah blah blah. You get the idea. The solution? Stop it!! Stop it right now. Stop beating yourself up for being YOU. You are an individual and you are special, please do not spend your whole life wishing you were somebody else because that is such a waste of the incredible person you are. Be unique! We need more individuality and creativity these days, the world needs more of it. The world needs you!
cut out any negative people in your life
CUT THEM OFF. Unfollow them. Delete them. Block them. Tell them they’re bringing negative energy into your life and you cannot be around them anymore. I would rather have 0 friends than 10 who ridicule me and cut me down at every chance they get. If people make you feel like you can’t express yourself and be who you are, GET RID OF THEM. This is your life and you can take control and responsibility for it anytime you choose. Grab it with both hands and tell the world you’re not going to suppress who you are for anybody.
And there we have it! Let me know if you’d like more of these posts as I have a lot more points up my sleeve – I thought I’d do 7 today ’cause it’s Monday and you know, one point for each day of the week.
I hope you all enjoyed this and remember that you are a wonderful, creative and inspiring individual – the world is very lucky to have you.
All my love,