If you’re seeing all of these life questioning, philosophical posts that I seem to be uploading lately and thinking…is Chloe having a midlife crisis?
I’m just going with it. I have so many questions floating around my brain and what I wanted to talk about today is something that’s been really playing on my mind a lot lately, not because it makes me feel angry, sad, annoyed etc. I just…I don’t know. I don’t really know how it makes me feel, which I guess is the reason it’s been playing on my mind a lot. I don’t really know if this is something I can turn into a post (??) but I’m going to try anyway because I feel like I need to get this out of my system.
*What I’m going to be talking about today is specific, but it can be applied to basically the whole music industry – I’m sure you know what I mean*
Long story short, there’s been a scandal in Korea lately regarding certain Kpop idols and their disgusting actions of sexually exploiting women that have recently come to light. A lot of people, needless to say, were absolutely shocked and it seems that now one person has been exposed…an endless list of people are continuing to be named and shamed and people are wondering, will the list ever end?
Even though I’m going to be talking about Korea / Kpop today, this still applies to the music industry as a whole because, as we all know, there are a lot of revelations and awful things that come to light too often these days, so all of this applies to Western artists and their industry too.
Now, somebody I absolutely love and adore within Kpop (who I won’t name because I don’t want this post to be about them) was friends with one of these perpetrators and the thing that sparked the thing that was playing on my mind was the fact that I saw somebody ask the other day – did they know about this? The fact they were friends is making me uncomfortable…do you think there’s any connection?
Now, instantly my reaction was no – not in a million fucking years, however, of course I understand why the question was asked and I’m relieved that people are actually taking the time to ask such things instead of being blinded by their love, as such, for idols and therefore being in denial about anything that gets said about them – it’s good that people can take a step back from it and say actually – was there something going on here? Should we be looking into this?
Now, like I said, these two people were friends or more, acquaintances maybe. I say were because no one really knows timelines and of course, they were both idols within the industry and therefore when two idols interact with each other, it becomes public knowledge because instantly everyone’s talking about it – it’s one of those things that as a fan, you just know. However, they weren’t best friends and no one really knows for certain but I assume they maybe hung out a couple of times and caught up with each other on the off chance but other than that, nothing more happened. The events that took place with the perpetrators happened years ago and have only just come to light now, but during that period of time in between, I don’t believe these perpetrators were ever suspected – why would they be? Nothing had been said and they weren’t about to air their disgusting secrets to the world, so why would anyone suspect them?
I think the thing that’s playing on my mind is the fact that because of these people, we now have to question everyone’s intentions and integrity. Should we be concerned that the people who were friends with them or worked with them during that time are also of the same calibre? Even though they had no idea, should we still question whether they too would act out the same actions as the person they were friends with? Or worked with?
That’s what’s bugging me. The fact that disgusting people have to ruin everything for everyone else.
Like I said, I completely and utterly understand why the question is being asked and I am relieved and grateful for it, but it makes me so sad that literal angels are being doubted because well, if these loving, sweet and kind people managed to do those types of things behind closed doors – who’s to say anyone else is different? And it’s true. I get it. We don’t know these people, their image is a pure construction in order to appeal to people and make money, and it works. We don’t know what goes on behind closed doors or who they really are when the cameras are turned off.
I feel like now I’m just supposed to sit here questioning everyone’s integrity just in case and it sucks. It’s really playing on my mind because of the fact of the reality that someone questioned literally the purest, kindest and most beautiful soul due to the fact that at one point they happened to be friends with one of these perpetrators – if I lived next door to a murderer my whole life and had no idea but one day it was revealed to the world, does that then automatically make me guilty too just because I knew them? Just because I saw them everyday and lived in the house next door? No. But it makes you question it anyway because if someone so famous with such a perfect, clean cut image is able to do these disgusting things and have people none the wiser, anyone can.
So it makes people start doubting and it makes them worry. This person was so uncomfortable to a point where they had to ask fellow fans hang on a second, can we talk about this? I don’t know how to feel.
It makes me so sad, for everybody involved – for artists and for fans, that we have to go through this thought process now every time – we’re forced to question the people we love and good people have to be doubted for no reason due to something that’s beyond their control. It’s a God awful shame that things get ruined because of these monsters – we shouldn’t have to be doubting people but we are because really, who can you trust? You love these artists and you know they’re inherently good people, but can you prove that, really? You don’t know them personally and never will, so how can you ever be sure something isn’t going to turn up in the news tomorrow?
But I don’t wanna live my life like that, thinking should I get a tattoo for this artist, just in case? Should I put their song lyrics in my bio in case something gets revealed? Should I buy tickets to their concert because what if there’s breaking news tomorrow and actually, I find out they’re not who I thought they were?
I know that the artists I look up to are the most wonderful, amazing people with hearts of gold and would never do anything of the sort. Can I prove that? No. Can we prove that about anyone? No. But I know. I’d bet my life on it. I know they’re good. I know they would never. I don’t need to sit around worrying about the fact that all of these people could be exposed at any point because if that’s the way you look at it then it’s the same for every single person in the world. Who’s to say your boss at work isn’t going to make front page news tomorrow for having murdered his family 10 years ago? Or your best friend? Or even a family member? You know these people would never do such things but can you prove it? No. Hell, we can’t even prove it about ourselves, because what are we to say other than no, that’s not me?
You have to take people for their word and who you know them to be, if you’ve been fooled into a false sense of security and therefore into thinking this person is someone they’re not, that is not your fault. I’m not going to let these disgusting people ruin music for me and I’m not going to let them make me start doubting the people I love either, so fuck you. It just really broke my heart that a fan of this particular idol was like wait, they used to be friends with one of the perpetrators…does that mean they knew? Does that make them guilty too?
Even though I haven’t mentioned any names, I know that this person had no idea and would never, ever have had anything to do with it or done anything of the sort. Ever. Can I prove it? No. Do I know it for a fact? No. But I know. There are fucking good people in this world and this person was one of them, there are so many amazing people in music and the industry but because of these disgusting monsters that happened to take the same career path, everyone gets tarnished with the same brush.
I think I just wanted to write this post to say, to my artists, I don’t doubt you. I never will. There are some things you just know in life and the fact that you’re a good person is one of them. It doesn’t make me a bad person if I do doubt you, because if it was the other way around you might doubt me too, but still, I’d bet my life on saying you’re pure and good. I know you are.
I just needed to get this out into the world because it was playing on my mind and the reality of it was making me sad, because it’s such an awful shame. However, it’s not about to stop me from continuing to support and enjoy the artists I love. Like I said, I’m not about to live my life like that. I’m not going to let these people ruin it for me, for us. We deserve better, all of the fans and everyone affected deserves so much fucking better, and we deserve to be happy, so we will.
Kpop is still taking over the world, one step at a time, and I will still continue to love and support the amazing people that contribute to it until I’m given a reason not to.
All my love,